Deep Thoughts
I look at hopelessly shallow people with envy. I wonder: What is it like to look around and not see anything? What is it like to think that our government is wonderful, that our quality of life is brilliant, that people are good and true?
When I finish with a thought like that, I have to look at myself and ask: which is better? My life or idiot's life over there? Idiot seems to be smiling and having a good time. I wonder.
Today, however, is not filled with too many deep thoughts. I'm trying to finish a semester and finish a dissertation. I'm trying to get a job. In the nanoseconds in between I have been thinking about control. I watched this documentary on HBO called Thin and I thought that these women needed something in life to control -- so they controlled their food intake, their bodies, their desire.
I am a controlling kind of girl myself. I not only want the house clean, I want it clean MY way. This is a personality trait that is good for teaching, but hard on a person's life. The world is not a neat little package that one can wrap up with the corners tucked in tightly. When I finally stopped biting my fingernails, a well-meaning member of the family asked what I replaced the habit with. I gave some stupid, and not-thought-out answer, but the real answer is control. I learned that the control was just as satisfying.
I'm finding this to be true in my eating habit change as well. There is something to be said for control: that something is that it is gratifying. My therapist says that my drive for control stems from a childhood that was out of control. That sounds rational enough.
But am I alone out there? Do you control things? Does it give you a sense of satisfaction? Does it make you crazy when you lose control?
Well, those aren't really deep thoughts. But that is what I have to offer today.